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matteo
55 Santa Barbara, California, United States
Seeking: Female 35 - 52
Marital Status: Separated
Мой мозг путешествует с гораздо более высокой скоростью, чем большинство - это положительный и отрицательный. Я очень интуитивно и гораздо более развитое чувство сопереживания, чем кто-либо я когда-либо встречал. Этот быстрый мозг также означает быстрый и умный ум. Но это означает, что я также время от времени немного охраняется и защищает себя. Я действительно заботливый человек, но я могу казаться чрезвычайно сильным и даже пугающим. Мой размер и мой характер встречается как мощный, уверенный и бесстрашный. Я дорожу людьми, и мое самое большое удовольствие – это помогать и заботиться о других. Я обещал аттефийно отдавать больше себя другим. Так что если вы можете расшифровать то, что я написал сегодня рано утром 3 утра, вы, возможно, кто-то я должен знать .... Легко боготворить страсть и идентифицировать себя по тому, чем мы увлечены. Но это не то, как любить. Любить – это быть нежным, заботливым и самоотверженным в своих чувствах к другому. Древние греки имели четыре слова любви, каждый из которых сильно отличался по форме - Сторге, Фелия, Эрос и Агапе. Storge это любовь, которую человек чувствует, как инстинкт, как мать своей дочери. Phelia является любовь, созданная через дружбу. Эрос - это интенсивная страстная любовь, притяжательная любовь. А Агапе - это действие, стремление к лучшему для других, не заботясь о последствиях. Люди склонны видеть эти любит совершенно по-разному, и отдельно. Тем не менее, конечной любовью между двумя людьми должна быть любовь, которая имеет все четыре формы любви настоящее время-инстинктивная любовь без сомнения, любовь к глубокой связи честности, без мотива или манипуляции, глубокое желание быть стянуты друг к другу в интимности , и полная капитуляция на благо другого. И это любовь, которую я только себе представлял. Я видел ав.е. всех этих любви, я испытывал чувства и эмоции каждого по отдельности. Но я никогда не позволял себе возможность поделиться так много о себе, сдаться столько уязвимости, чтобы позволить этой полной любви процветать. Я провел всю жизнь, готовясь мое сердце и душу полностью сдаться любви, отдать себя другому, в полной честности, и полной уязвимости. И теперь, когда я готов, эти энергии и желания не имеют дома, чтобы вернуться. Тем не менее, глубоко в моем сердце, я продолжаю искать, я продолжаю надеяться, готовясь к познаваю любовь. Of course the above is translated. Here are my actual words as I wrote them: My brain travels at a much higher speed than most - it is a positive and negative. I am highly intuitive and have a much more developed sense of empathy than anyone I have ever met. That quick brain also means a quick and intelligent wit. But it means I am also at times a bit guarded and protective of myself. I am a genuinely caring person, but I can appear exceedingly strong and even intimidating. My size and my character comes across as powerful, confident and fearless. I cherish people and my greatest pleasure is helping and caring for others. I have pledged to give more of myself to others. So if you can decipher what I wrote this early morning 3am, you are perhaps someone I am meant to know.... It is easy to idolize passion and to identify ourselves by the things we are passionate about. But this is not how to love. To love is to be gentle, caring and selfless in our feelings for another. The ancient Greeks had four words for love, each very different in form – Storge, Phelia, Eros and Agape. Storge is the love one feels as an instinct, like a mother to her daughter. Phelia is an affection created through friendship. Eros is the intense passionate love, the possessive love. And Agape is an action, of seeking the best for others without concern for consequences. People tend to see these loves quite differently, and separately. Yet the ultimate love between two people must be a love that has all four forms of love present- an instinctive love without question, a fondness of a deep bond of honesty, without motive or manipulation, a deep desire to be drawn close together in intimacy, and a total surrender to the benefit of the other. And it is a love I have only imagined. I have seen elements of all these loves, I have experienced the feelings and emotions of each separately. But I have never allowed myself the ability to share so much of myself, to surrender so much vulnerability, to allow this complete love to flourish. I have spent a lifetime preparing my heart and soul to surrender to love entirely, to give myself to another, in complete honesty, and complete vulnerability. And now that I am ready, these energies and desires have no home to return to. Yet deep inside my heart, I keep searching, I keep hoping, preparing to know love.
Carlos
55 Salt Lake City, Utah, United States
Seeking: Female 26 - 48
Marital Status: Separated
Outdoors. Fishing. Hunting for food not sport. Camping. Hiking. Reading. Fixing broken shit... DIYer I’m from the south...born in Alabama...raised in Tennessee...humbled in Germany ... kicked around at BYU until I graduated in 1988... raised 4 boys in Utah. I’ve been here ever since. Like a salmon I do have this migration-like instinct pulling me down south. I don’t expect to give in to it however. Maybe it has to do with my ancestry being Alabama pioneers going back to the 1820s. Yes I’m into family history BUT not because I’m old ! Well...maybe a tad.  But You’re only as old as the photo filter says you are.  What you see is what you get.  Prepare for the future. Live in the present. Now we’re talkin’!  So Easy right?! I’m very spontaneous yet proactive in trying to be a better person. I enjoy anything outdoors except pulling weeds. I like Camping..fishing..hiking..exploring....bow hunting..dirt bikes...sports...golf (I suck btw) etc..etc. my. My dream trip would be to Israel and Italy—3 weeks...feeling rushed on a vacation sucks  Reading history, biographies, business, religion books. I like documentaries, sports and good movies. Favorites include Jaws, Dances with Wolves, Ferris Buehler, The Revenant, and deep philosophical ones like Napoleon Dynamite and Dumb and Dumber. My all-time favorite is The Notebook 🤮 ;-).  I like classic rock with faves being The Beatles...Led Zepplin...Van Halen...Rolling Stones...Eagles...Journey...Steve Miller. Some country music.   Best album: Sgt Peppers,  The White album, Led Zeppelin 1. VH 1984 Songs: Eleanor Rigby, Helter Skelter, Kashmir, Brown-eyed Girl, Peaceful Easy Feeling.  I love sports  Utah Jazz and BYU football being at the top of the list—the latter teaching me humility, patience and long-suffering.  My perfect match?  There ain’t one. Having lots of things in common is great but isn’t a necessity.  If there is that “connection” —which I can’t really define—then I’ll just want to be with her doing whatever...even pulling weeds ;-).  And to be crystal clear, I believe  step one in a relationship is friendship. I don’t believe steps should be skipped. Going from messaging on Match to Step 4 —whatever the far end of the scale would be skipping steps. This ain’t The Bachelor. Also a friendship wrapped in “Benefits” is playing with fire and is quite frankly wrong on many levels. I'm separated not divorced...and this puts more importance on developing the friendship and staying with that until other things work out. That’s it. Oh wait...did I mention I love The Notebook  To be clear ...I am joking. I hope that is obvious :-) Caveats:  If you don’t like surprises and unpredictability I ain’t your guy.  If your life is a big To Do list  I ain’t your guy.  If you’re above shopping At Walmart I ain’t your guy.  If you live to workout rather than workout to live then I ain’t your guy. If you drive a Subaru with bumper stickers plastered on the back defining your worldview and articles of faith then .... we probably can’t Coexist ;-)  If most of your pictures are of you drinking and that accurately depicts your lifestyle then I ain’t your guy. I’m not a prude but I’m just sayin’ And finally...If “ain’t” and “y’all” annoy you then c’mon y’all I ain’t your guy.
Robert
69 Oakley, California, United States
Seeking: Female 18 - 51
Marital Status: Separated
Easy going guy who wants to live it up with a down to earth woman About My Life and What I’m Looking For In My Own Words: No one ever accused me of being a hot head. I’d rather laugh than argue and make someone feel welcome instead of left out. Yes, I’m a nice guy. Isn’t that refreshing? My background is in Business. That’s what I studied in college and it’s how I make my living, specifically real estate. I know, I know, I hear the collective groan out there. But I think tough circumstances force us to play smarter, not just harder and it’s an exciting time in that respect. I’m well suited to my profession because I’ve never been reactionary, preferring a moderate approach whenever possible. Interestingly, that’s also how I view relationships. A down-to-earth woman with a healthy lifestyle and a sense of humor gets my attention, especially if she too, keeps drama to a minimum. She’s cool under pressure but a has warm, loving personality. Smoking and drugs are deal breakers for me. The only high I’m interested in comes from a great vacation or a lovely weekend in the company of someone special. My match also likes to travel. I’ve been lucky to see China, Hong Kong and the Philippines, but I haven’t yet seen Europe. It’s next on the list and could be more fun with the woman in my life. This laid-back world traveler I envision is also into the outdoors and doesn’t mind sharing me with my dog! Trust me, we’re both lots of fun at the beach, on a walk or hiking in the mountains. We love the outdoors! The woman for me can communicate. She’s talkative because she has something on her mind, not just because she’s trying to fill a silence. Living in California is wonderful and there are so many gorgeous places for two people to explore while they get to know one another. What do you say? For Fun: Traveling abroad or just exploring locally sounds like fun. Dinner with friends, a bike ride or hikes with my dog are also favorite pastimes. Favorite Hot Spots: The Far East holds some of my preferred destinations. Hong Kong, China and the Philippines were incredible trips. I wouldn’t mind returning but after I’ve finally seen Europe! Here in the states, I like Tahoe, Yosemite, Carmel and Monterey. Favorite Things: I’m a steak, fish and salad guy who’s happy at restaurants like Chili’s, Red Lobster or anywhere with good Chinese food. The outdoors is where I’m most at home. Last Read: These days you have to keep up with current events in the money market. I read Business Week and real estate books but also enjoy Sports Illustrated and the local paper. My Job: As a self-employed real estate broker and investor, I’ve been in the business since 1984. I also spent 12 years working in Accounting. My Ethnicity: Most of my family is of German/Dutch/Irish descent. My Religion: Religion isn’t a hot button issue for me in dating relationships. I’m a person of faith but don’t regularly attend services so I keep an open mind. My Education: My major was Finance and my degree is a Bachelor of Science in Business. I hope we can chat with each other soon.
Mark
49 Portland, Oregon, United States
Seeking: Female 21 - 39
Marital Status: Separated

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